Upon completion of TBS, I had orders to report for flight school in Pensacola where Skip Ringo and Pat Finneran became close friends, though they had orders for pilot training and I was headed NFO training at what was affectionately called ‘Banana School’, but we all had the good fortune to be together for preflight training. It was while there that I asked a hometown (Camden, S.C.) girl, Beau Wilson, to be my date for the Marine Corp Ball in 1968. The rest is history and we’re still thankful; we were married in February 1969 and I departed for Da Nang in November for my year abroad, having spent nine months at Cherry Point becoming proficient as an RSO in the RF-4B with VMCJ-2.
My Vietnam tour had a few highlights, especially since after VMCJ-1 deployed in June for Iwakuni I joined H&MS-11 so as to stay in-country and fly, a decision I still wonder about. Among its other missions, H&MS-11 had a flight mission that involved low-level/high-speed visual reconnaissance missions along the Trail. My pilot and I were shot down in the A Shau Valley in July, and were spectacularly and safely (to us, anyhow) rescued by Spads, Jollys, and, it seemed, the whole MAC(V) air armada. Thereafter, nothing could quite top that, and that is where I learned gratitude.
After returning from Vietnam and nine months at Camp Lejeune with 2/2 as an ALO, I buried any notion of a military career. My wife, Beau, and I went back home to Camden, SC, and I entered law school at the University of South Carolina. It was time to settle, to raise a family; time to start developing a professional life and to become a part of a community. After a lengthy wait, we were able to adopt over a six-year period three beautiful children, a boy, Jonathan, and two girls, Eliza and Susanna. I practiced law; we made a life in the proximity and presence of extended family, and we joined our home community in work, play and service.
Following the untimely deaths of Beau’s parents in 1981, we began to consider moving. By then we were making an annual pilgrimage to Alaska where we bought some land in 1978 and eventually built a cabin. I also flew for an air taxi operator out of Homer for a couple of summers. I had spent a year in a graduate course at the University of Washington Law School, so we settled on Seattle for a permanent move and arrived there in 1983. I once again practiced law. We had the city for the school year, Alaska in the summer, and the kids adapted well to what was a little bit easier annual trek to Alaska.
After seven years we decided we were really small town people after all and we moved again, this time to Sun Valley, Idaho, in the fall of 1990. We had come for a year and stayed for twenty-two. I gave up law for a few years and took up an old calling of church musician when a local organist failed to show up one Easter Sunday. I had asked the rector after attending several services, if I could practice the organ occasionally. “How about every Sunday morning at 9:30?” was his answer. For twenty-two years, until I entered Episcopal Divinity School in the spring of 2012, I spent my Sunday mornings making music, and it was a gift and a joy. I did resume the practice of law within a few years.
The Sun Valley years were wonderful, rich in friendships, and full of outdoor activities, and though our children thrived in school and in small town life after the years in Seattle, there came the untimely and unexpected death of our youngest daughter, Susanna, in 1994. The immediate pain of Susanna’s loss has slowly subsided as the years have passed, but it never seems to lie too far below the surface. We have adjusted to her absence yet a vacancy remains in our hearts as we imagine what she might have been like as a thirty-five year old woman and we recall her spark of life that made her such a joy in spite of her challenges.
This current chapter will end as I graduate from seminary and am ordained a priest in the Episcopal Church next month, so this Reunion couldn’t be coming at a better time as we all gather to remember endings and beginnings. I am so grateful to the organizers of this reunion. It has been too long between visits! I look forward to hearing the stories, sharing the memories, and swapping sea stories. I am especially anticipating remembering and honoring those who are now departed from us whose names may or may not be on the Wall, but whose memory we’ll carry in our hearts.
I look forward to seeing everyone whether I remember you or not! I expect we all may look a little different.