My parents were reporters for newspapers and radio who left college to join the Marines in World War II as Combat Correspondents. He was a Master Sergeant and she a Sergeant when they married in Hawaii in March, 1945, and I was born in Dallas, Texas, nine months later. Their careers eventually took us to New York City, where I graduated from high school, then majored in Romance Languages at Princeton on an NROTC scholarship. For those of us who came up that route, TBS was the last of a series of training experiences we shared. Since we were always at the same end of the alphabet, I spent a lot of summers with Joe Allen, Paul Daigle, Terry Graves, and others. Joe Renaghan and I attended ninth grade together in Massachusetts and, at Quantico, I roomed with Bill Dakin, also from Princeton, but we never liked each other at school and still don’t, so that was of little help.
After TBS, ten of us (all 03’s, I think) were selected for six weeks of Vietnamese language training at Quantico, which made remarkably little difference in our ability to speak Vietnamese, but did mean that we arrived in the middle of Tet, rather than before, and missed some of the fireworks. The 27th Marines was just arriving in country, so three of us were immediately assigned as S-5’s to the battalions and I was assigned as regimental S-5, stationed a few miles south of Da Nang. In May, I caught malaria while TAD to an Army artillery battery supporting Allan Brooke on Go Noi Island, and spent late June hospitalized at Cam Ranh Bay.
In July, I took over the platoon John Kispert had led in C/1/27 and was wounded by grenade during night fighting in the final Tet Offensive of late August. When the 27th went home in September, I joined 1st Marines, the replacement unit in the TAOR, as Asst S-3, and returned to Go Noi Island for Meade River. From November to February, I was Psyops Officer for 1st Marines, then for 1st MarDiv. I extended for six months and returned to Da Nang in April as press officer for the 1st MarDiv. In October, 1969, I left Da Nang for my next duty station, Fifth Avenue, New York City, where I was press spokesman for the Marine Corps until I was released in June, 1971.
I traveled back to Vietnam for two weeks for Time Magazine in the fall of 1971, then moved to WNET, Channel 13, public television in New York, where I hosted news programs. In 1976, I left television and set up my own company, providing speech writing and coaching for senior executives at IBM, AT&T, Ford, and Merck, among others. My original headquarters was a cheap industrial loft on the waterfront in Brooklyn, in an area later called DUMBO.
The business was good to me and the property appreciated, so I was able to retire around 2000 and move two hours north of the city to Palenville, population 1,000, in the Hudson Valley. Along the way, I married at 40, had a wonderful daughter, Alden, and married again in 1996, to Doreen Parsley, a Vice President at Merck, who recently retired to join me in Palenville with two Labrador retrievers.
The summer and fall of 1967 was an extraordinary time for me, preparing for an experience that would claim 5 of my TBS platoon of 45, including Al DeCraene, our married roommate. How unique was our experience? More than 28,000 of us died in 1968-69, half of all those who would die in Vietnam and four times the number who’ve died in all the wars since Vietnam. Today, we have as much direct experience of combat as any Americans alive.
At TBS, I was openly opposed to US involvement in Vietnam, based on everything I’d read, and I remember wondering whether I should go or not. Ultimately, I decided to go and make my own decision, based on what I saw. Once there, I knew I had done the right thing and I’ve never had a doubt since. Decades later, I began to wonder how I reached that conclusion, when everyone else concluded that Vietnam was a disastrous mistake.
I’ve spent more than a decade sorting it out and am now completing a book on that question tentatively called Vietnam, The Forgotten War. To make a long story short, we weren’t fighting a people’s war of national liberation. We were in the final years of a war that stretched back to 1600, between North Vietnam, the country run by mandarins that we knew about, and South Vietnam, a smaller state led by the Nguyen, a renegade family of Vietnamese warrior/kings. During the 17th century, the North invaded the South six times with armies of up to 200,000 men, and the South beat them each time. When Vietnam was finally unified in 1802, it was the South that was victorious. By the time the French left in 1954, Vietnamese nationalists had erased that 350-year struggle from their history, in order to promote Vietnamese unification.
Bottom line? We fought alongside people who had been fighting for survival for three centuries against a much stronger enemy, but had no history to prove it. From 1954 to 1974, the ARVN KIA were proportionally three times higher than we, ourselves, suffered in our own Civil War.
In retrospect, the training I received at Quantico not only got me through Vietnam, but the rest of my life as well, and I’m very grateful for that, as well as the friendships I’ve carried ever since.
Semper Fi.